Single and Dating: Let the girl choose you.

What does that mean?

But Joey, What does that mean? It doesn’t mean to be an asshole, a cold dick or ignore your girl or a girl you are dating. It means letting your girl choose you, whether you are single and dating, in a relationship or married.

For today's blog, we’ll talk about what this looks like in the world when you are single and dating. 

What does it mean to choose you?

I don’t recommend coffee dates if you are single and dating, but this picture will do for now lo..

If you are single and dating, this means letting her choose to reciprocate the interest you are showing, whether you are meeting her for the first time at a bar, or a public place, or going on a date. Simply let her choose you. Let her show the interest you have just clearly made in her. 

Whether that interest you made clear was by asking for her name, a phone number, or setting a date. 

Once the date is set, definitely let her choose you

Once you have that date set, she is going to either choose you or not. If she does choose you, her actions will either confirm the date, or simply just show up (you know like a responsible adult). Just let her choose you. Let’s be clear….

Letting a girl choose you does not mean 

It does not mean that you think you are Odell Beckham Jr, and god’s gift to the earth. It means that you simply  value hanging out with girls that actively choose to be there with you, and even are a little eager, not someone you had to reach out to make sure she’d be there. 

Look guys, I know. Being Single and Dating Means Emotions. 

We’ve all been there and done that, where we called too often, texted too much, and did not have the confidence to just set the date and call it a day, you can probably sign me up for first place in this department. 

Especially hoping and filled with our own anticipation wondering if the girl you really like is going to show up, call you, respond to your text, or choose to be with you out on that next date. 

If you do have that date you are looking forward to

Then that is awesome, I’m happy for you, but still, more importantly let her choose to show up there, let her choose and feel her excitement that she wants to reach out and confirm that date. Once again this is letting her choose you. 

To put my therapist hat on for a second….

By letting her choose you, no matter how much you like the girl, you are keeping a focus on her actions. If it is about her actions and she does not show up or cancels you might feel disappointed, to keep it real come on you totally will. But what you are totally less likely to feel is frustration, anger, or even hurt.

These are all much more powerful emotions if you ask me, and ones I know I’ve felt in dating, that I don’t want you guys to feel, and definitely feel less of them. 

Simply put, by letting your girl choose you, you are removing your emotions by focusing on her actions, and being indifferent if she comes or goes, and at the worst, a little disappointed. 

So for those Single and dating men:

Let her choose you. Whether you are making your interest known, by going up to say hello, ask for a phone number, or set that date. Be clear, put your intent out there, and then she can choose you or not, but no matter you showed up as a man, that;s all you can ask for, all she needs and also really how you grow.  

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